tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-44484117145044600282024-03-19T05:04:09.640-05:00Brian DahlenNo pretense. No nonsense. Sometimes - no sense at all.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15554902239046333884noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448411714504460028.post-26993523845857297682015-07-12T17:09:00.001-05:002015-07-12T17:09:03.454-05:00Why You're Wrong to Hate Clickbaiting<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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It's fashionable to hate clickbaiting. I find this collective distaste for the practice both amusing and ridiculous.<br />
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For the uninitiated, clickbaiting is <a href="http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/us/definition/american_english/clickbait">defined</a> as "...content whose main purpose is to attract attention and encourage visitors to click on to a particular web page..." Basically, it's those posts on Facebook and Twitter that are clearly trying to convince you to click on a link. And you may find it difficult to resist. Unless of course you're a high minded internet snob that claims to never succumb to this supposed sinful practice.<br />
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Before you get mad, let me explain.<br />
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Your attention is limited. So is your time. Everyone in media is competing for your attention, and we know you couldn't possibly spend time with all of us. So we have to motivate you to choose us over everyone else. Sound familiar? It should. This is just basic marketing and advertising used by all businesses everywhere. <br />
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So it should come as no surprise that clickbaiting isn't a new concept. It's actually a modern iteration of a widely accepted practice in media that's been utilized for ages. In radio, we call it a "tease". Simply put, it's a strategy designed to motivate you to listen by giving a preview of what will be discussed. But instead of telling you everything, we withhold key information that can only be discovered by listening at a designated time. For example, "The President announced a major policy change that impacts all Christians in America. What is it? I'll explain, coming-up in a moment."<br />
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Change a few words in that "tease", post it on Facebook along with a hyperlink, and the clickbaiting brigade will launch an attack of epically snobbish proportions.<br />
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But have you ever stopped to consider why "teasing" and clickbaiting are actually used? It's not because people are dumb, or businesses are mean. It's because media organizations need to make money. The more people watching or listening, the more money you can charge advertisers for commercials.<br />
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Life on the internet is pretty much the same. In order to survive as a business, websites need to tangibly demonstrate to advertisers that people are looking at their ads. And when was the last time you randomly went to a website that you've never heard of and nobody recommended to you? Let me answer for you - <b>never</b>. Great writing and photography alone won't magically bring people to a website. Some sort of clickbaiting (a.k.a. marketing) is necessary to make one article stand out among millions of others. <br />
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That's not to say that all clickbaiting is good. It most certainly isn't. In fact, I've been annoyed at the practice on multiple occasions. But my reasons are probably different than yours. And they're born out of my experience teaching "teasing" to broadcasters in a variety of settings. So, let me help you redirect your hatred of clickbaiting toward the true source of your disdain. Here's what you actually dislike:<br />
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<li><b>Clickbaiting that lies.</b> The very first lesson I teach broadcasters about "teasing" is that it must be accurate. Anytime you lie to someone in an effort to get them to listen, you'll make them mad. And you'll lose credibility. So honesty must be employed at all costs, even if the truth is less interesting than your creative idea. So if you click on a link and discover that the information advertised isn't true, don't get mad at the idea of clickbaiting. Get mad at the person or organization that lied to you.</li>
<li><b>Clickbaiting that disappoints</b>. The internet isn't custom designed to perfectly meet all of your expectations and interests. If you find yourself disappointed by the content of an article that shared truthful information to get you there, get over it. Leave the concept of clickbaiting alone. And stop expecting everything you choose in life to make you supremely satisfied. That's just weird. And unrealistic. Plus, your mom might love the article that made poor little you so disappointed.</li>
<li><b>Clickbaiting that tells you how you're going to feel. </b>It's an understandable mistake. Your friend shares a video on Facebook, primarily because that touching moment at 2:33 made them instantly weep. So in an effort to get you to watch it, they write, "Check out this amazing video! The little boy at 2:33 will totally make you cry!" And of course, after watching it you don't cry. You're actually annoyed by that kid. But don't blame clickbaiting for this problem. Blame your friend for incorrectly predicting how you're going to feel. </li>
<li><b>The absence of clickbaiting</b>. I'm sorry to break the news to you, but every time you follow a link online, you're responding to some form of clickbaiting. Perhaps the name of an author is enough to motivate you to click. Other times, it's a creative, provocative, or interesting sentence. But would you ever click on a link that doesn't put any effort whatsoever into getting your attention? I don't think so. Consider one of my favorites - "Check out my new blog post." Compelling, huh? Without any information about the content, there's absolutely no reason anyone would want to read that post. The author needs some good old fashioned clickbaiting to get your attention. And I don't think any of us would want to live in a world where the internet is filled with meaningless statements followed by ambiguous hyperlinks.</li>
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If you want to catch a fish, you can't just drop an empty hook in the water and expect something to happen. You need enticing bait to get fish to take a bite. Media, whether on radio or online, is exactly the same. Nobody is going to click on a link unless there's enticing bait to motivate the action. So stop inaccurately labeling legitimate and creative social media marketing strategies as a negative form a clickbaiting. Instead, direct your frustration toward terrible <i><b>applications</b></i> of an important and necessary promotional technique. <br />
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Everybody has a platform.<br />
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It's the new reality in media, and in life. In an average second, <a href="http://www.internetlivestats.com/twitter-statistics/">6,000 tweets</a> are posted. Over <a href="http://www.internetlivestats.com/one-second/#youtube-band">101,000 YouTube videos </a>are watched. Over <a href="http://www.internetlivestats.com/google-search-statistics/">40,000 Google</a> searches are queried. The days of newspapers and television newscasters monopolizing information are over. <br />
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This makes getting noticed a significant challenge.<br />
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Whether you're a blogger, broadcaster, social media marketer or just a random person that wants your idea heard, you've got to stand out from the crowd. As a radio guy, I've been facing this challenge for years. We're not just competing against other stations. We're battling against your Facebook feed for your attention. We used to be able to garner listeners by simply reporting the latest information. Now by the time we share it, you've probably already heard it. And you likely know more about it than we do.<br />
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So what's the key to ensuring your unique voice is heard above all the rest? Here's a few secrets:<br />
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<li><b>Find your unique angle</b>. Unless you're a professional journalist, you'll never be able to capture anyone's attention with information. Facts are readily accessible through a quick Google search. They even magically appear in your Facebook feed without any effort. Instead, focus on one simple question: <i>What can I say about this topic that nobody else is saying?</i> The answer is what I call your 'unique angle'. Sometimes it's counter intuitive. Other times it's unexpected. Or it could be born out of your specialized training and experience. Either way, it's got to be something that only <i><b>you</b></i> can offer. Otherwise, why would anyone want to listen to something they can find anywhere else? </li>
<li><b>Embrace your personality</b>. Many high school and college writing classes train you to squelch your voice. Don't get me wrong, this is an important and necessary tactic in academic writing. But sadly, many lose their personality in the process. The moment his fingers touch a keyboard, a funny guy's sarcastic wit disappears. If you want to be heard, you've got to rediscover your voice. If you're an aspiring blogger or just engaging in social media, you've got to find yourself in your writing. If you're a broadcaster, drop the formalities, get comfortable and be the unique person God designed you to be. Personality paired with unique angles are a powerful combination.</li>
<li><b>Economy of words</b>. It's yet another unintended consequence of college writing. You've been asked to arbitrarily compose a ten page paper, but you've only got about five pages of things to say. So you drag out the content as much as possible with stuff that doesn't matter. I see this play out when I teach writing for radio. Great students can pound out a lengthy research paper, but they can't write a compelling paragraph. Words matter. Make them all count. And don't use any more than are absolutely necessary. According to the <a href="http://www.statisticbrain.com/attention-span-statistics/">National Center for Biotechnology Information</a>, the average attention span is only 8.25 seconds. See how important words are? Get to the point quickly. If you're writing, use bullet points and bold words so readers can scan before they commit. Rather than complain about shrinking attention spans, embrace the facts and use them to your advantage.</li>
<li><b>Be clear</b>. Creativity has its disadvantages. Sometimes abstract concepts and artistic explanations are downright confusing. The last thing anyone should ever ask when they're reading your post or listening to you speak is, "What are you trying to say?" Don't ever sacrifice clarity for artistry. If you can't do both simultaneously, dump the creative and be clear. Crystal clear. </li>
<li><b>Tell great stories</b>. I chuckle when people predict the death of radio. The way we listen to it may be changing, but people still <a href="http://www.journalism.org/2015/04/29/audio-fact-sheet/">consume a lot of audio</a>. Don't believe me? The NPR podcast phenomenon "Serial" has more than <a href="http://www.usatoday.com/story/life/2015/04/13/serial-podcast-undisclosed/25501075/">80 million downloads</a>. This illustrates a simple truth that applies to all types of media - people love great stories. And they always will. Radio consultant <a href="http://tjohnsonmediagroup.com/blog/4-keys-great-storyteller/">Tracy Johnson says</a>, "The ability to tell stories well is the difference between captivating an audience and putting them to sleep." Take this reality and run with it. Whether you're writing or speaking, share clear, compelling and concise stories through the unique lens of your personality and perspective. </li>
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Digital media changed everything. If someone doesn't like your sermon, they can get a better one online. Boring blog posts are ignored. Average social media content is lost in a constant barrage of online content. Applying these simple strategies will enable you to focus your message, and rise above the rest.<br />
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I'll be discussing these and other digital messaging strategies at the upcoming "<a href="http://www.goingdigitalforgod.com/">Going Digital For His Kindgom</a>" conference series. I hope to see you there! For more information about dates, locations and registration, click <a href="http://www.goingdigitalforgod.com/">here</a>. Or just click on the "<a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/p/speaking.html">Events</a>" tab above.<br />
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">photo credit: <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/10506540@N07/6228420376">Stand Out from The Crowd Unique Golf Tee Game September 19, 20119</a> via <a href="http://photopin.com/">photopin</a> <a href="https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0/">(license)</a></span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15554902239046333884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448411714504460028.post-39569836653385982822015-05-26T07:33:00.001-05:002015-05-26T07:33:31.530-05:00It's Not Easy Being Skinny<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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"Wow, you look really fat! Have you been gaining weight?"<br />
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Nobody in their right mind would dare say something like that. It's completely insensitive, socially unacceptable and rude. But for whatever reason, saying the opposite is normal. Even funny.<br />
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Public accusations about being skinny typically don't hurt my feelings. But I find the hypocritical double standard amusing. Of course, in my case it's not an issue of being exceptionally thin. I just avoid flexing because it's annoying to constantly rip through shirts with my enormous muscles. <br />
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Anyway, I'm thinking it's about time to put an end to skinny shaming. Not everyone out there with high metabolism like me is trying to mask bulging biceps. They actually have feelings. And you taking time to loudly criticize their physique is embarrassing and offensive. And just like not all overweight people have a glandular problem, not all skinny people have an eating disorder. Some are just more slender than the average bear, and can't do anything about it. <br />
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In fact, If I could gain some weight I'd gladly do so. But for whatever reason, eating massive quantities of food has absolutely no effect on my weight. Neither does pairing that high calorie consumption with a notably sedentary, yet oddly compelling lifestyle.<br />
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In the midst of society ridiculing and chastising the slender, they fail to realize that life isn't all sunshine and roses for us. Being lanky comes with a long list of challenges and frustrations. Here's a few of them:<br />
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<li><b>Wearing pants.</b> While some have trouble getting pants over their hips, we have trouble keeping them on because we don't have any hips. Without a belt, things get interesting in public. </li>
<li><b>Sitting on chairs without cushions.</b> Enjoy watching a game in the bleachers? How about sitting in that folding chair in the church basement? Or in a desk at school? For us, these activities are basically medieval torture. We're not fidgeting because we're hyperactive. We're constantly moving because there isn't any padding on these surfaces. Or anywhere else. </li>
<li><b>Laying on the ground.</b> This is similar to sitting in chairs, only spread the pain across your entire body. That's why the scrawny kid at sleepovers doesn't sleep a wink. And why camping without an air mattress is like laying on a bed of nails.</li>
<li><b>Staying warm. </b>Those of you with extra cushion have no idea how spoiled you are in the winter. You're able to wear polo shirts to work without any difficulty, and you might even sweat a little bit. Meanwhile, I'm wearing long underwear and about three more layers and I'm still shivering. Then in the summertime, you crank up the air conditioning and I freeze to death. I'm not wearing a coat indoors in August because it's stylish. I'm desperately trying to prevent hypothermia. </li>
<li><b>Buying shirts.</b> If it weren't for "slim fit", I'd look like I'm drowning in a parachute. And trying to tuck it in just makes matters worse. At least those on the other end of the spectrum get big and tall stores. We don't have that luxury. </li>
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As you can see, being skinny isn't as great as everybody assumes. Hopefully my lighthearted highlights of our peculiar struggles were at least moderately enjoyable. And perhaps they'll gently point a finger at one of society's largely unrecognized hypocritical double standards. <br />
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">photo credit: <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/39160147@N03/16623547315">Levi's 510 Super Skinny Jeans, 2/2015, by Mike Mozart of TheToyChannel and JeepersMedia on YouTube #Levi #Skinny #Jeans</a> via <a href="http://photopin.com/">photopin</a> <a href="https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0/">(license)</a></span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15554902239046333884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448411714504460028.post-91640984514679447912015-04-26T18:39:00.002-05:002015-04-26T18:39:42.077-05:00Proof that My Kids are Funnier than Yours<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Kids are innocently hilarious.<br />
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It's not that they tell clever jokes or trade witty barbs. Instead, little kids say things that make us laugh without having any clue what just happened. They're completely oblivious, yet pleasantly surprised that we find them entertaining.<br />
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Although many <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/04/9-questions-not-to-ask-large-families.html">find it odd</a>, having five kids has its advantages. First of all, it's free entertainment. With that many little ones running around, something hilarious happens on a daily basis. Secondly, higher numbers creates natural anonymity. I can tell stories about them, and you'll never really know which one did it. So basically, they can't get mad at me later in life for writing this post. <br />
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With that in mind, here's a few unintentionally clever, witty, funny and awkward things my kids actually said:<br />
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<li><b>Grandma's Hair.</b> On a lazy afternoon, one of the kids was sitting on my mom's lap. He looked up at her, touched her hair and said, "Grandma, your hair is so soft! Just like dog poop."</li>
<li><b>Stuck in Traffic. </b>I'd love to meet the genius who decided it was a good idea for all of the major expressways in Chicago to converge in one place. This epically awful design ensures that you'll encounter traffic jams at frequent yet unpredictable times. After a long day away from home, we found ourselves completely stopped in traffic on a Saturday afternoon. Exasperated, one of the kids yelled from the back of the van, "We're going as fast as a cheetah with all four legs broken!"<b> </b></li>
<li><b>A Church Greeting. </b>It was palm Sunday. Even though I question the wisdom of this decision every year, all of the kids received palm branches in Sunday school. Naturally, my toddler decided it would be fun to hit people in the face with it. Then, he creatively revised what he learned about Palm Sunday in class. He jammed the palm branch into my face and yelled, "Hosanna in your face!"</li>
<li><b>Understanding Retirement. </b>My father-in-law retired after a long and distinguished career in law enforcement. Since they've never really worked a day in their lives, kids don't quite grasp the concept of 'retirement'. In an effort to learn more, one of the kids asked, "Hey Papa! Why did you stop working? Because you were scared of the bad guys?"</li>
<li><b>Don't Worry, Dad. </b>Every summer, we spend a long weekend in rural Wisconsin with another large family. The kids decided it would be fun to make some silly videos on an iPod Touch. My son co-starred in one short film with an enormous pile of horse manure. It featured him jumping as high as he could, and forcefully landing right in the middle of that fresh pile of horse poop. Upon viewing the video, I expressed how incredibly gross this was. In an effort to make me feel better, he said, "Don't worry dad! I was wearing sandals!"<b> </b></li>
<li><b>Deep Thoughts. </b>Kids love to ask hard questions. And trying to explain the laws of physics or finer points of theology to a toddler can be a challenging task. But every once in a while, I'll get a deep philosophical question that defies explanation. For example, one of my boys asked, "Why do we call it a 'pair' of underwear when it's only one?" That kid is <i>clearly </i>a deep thinker.<b> </b></li>
<li><b>The Grinch.</b> It drives most adults completely insane. For whatever reason, little kids fixate on one particular movie or TV show. For one of my sons, it's the newest version of "<a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0170016/">The Grinch</a>" starring Jim Carrey. I'm pretty sure that kid has seen it about two hundred times. Unfortunately, his passion for the film began when he was still developing his ability to properly pronounce certain letters and syllables. His version didn't sound anything like "The Grinch". First of all, he dropped "The" from the title. Then, unable to form the "Gr" sound, he changed it to a "B". And that pesky "n" was too hard to say, so he just made it silent. Take a moment to process that. Then you'll understand why it was slightly embarrassing for our kid to loudly request that movie in various settings on a daily basis for months. </li>
<li><b>Feeling Old.</b> I'm sure you don't feel very old. But a little perspective from some children will fix that for you. One day, the kids were quizzing us about our childhood. In the midst at marveling at life without cell phones and Netflix, my daughter asked, "What was it like living in the 1900's?" Ouch. </li>
<li><b>The Baby Announcement.</b> The moment of truth finally arrived. With four kids in the family, our ratio of boys to girls was equal. And both sides wanted baby number five to break the tie in their favor. When an ultrasound revealed the answer, we went home to tell the kids. Like any good parent with a smartphone, I decided to film the response. And it was epically amazing. [Can't see the video? Watch it <a href="https://youtu.be/3DUn9jDKxbU">here</a>.] </li>
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Even though some pretend it isn't, parenting is a significant challenge. We've had our fair share of headaches and trials. But thankfully, God provides stories like these to keep us laughing for years. <br />
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What's <i><b>your </b></i>funny kid story?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15554902239046333884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448411714504460028.post-24085799545386465612015-04-03T08:20:00.001-05:002015-04-03T08:20:25.389-05:00How Not to Do a "Smash and Grab"<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Does this actually happen to real people?<br />
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That was one of my first thoughts. Sure, I'd seen it in movies plenty of times. Some suave criminal quietly breaks into a car, connects a few wires and drives away. In a matter of moments, they've got a new sports car. But who in the world would want to steal my twelve passenger van? A struggling airport shuttle business? A horrifically corrupt church? A huge nerd that thinks it's cool to drive around in a massive van? <br />
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Whatever the reason, somebody stole my van. My enormous, industrial, kid-moving machine. And they stole it right in front of my house while we were sleeping.<br />
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At least I know they didn't go hungry. There were enough crumbs on the seats to feed a small family. And if they brought kids along for this heinous crime, there were plenty of car seat options. Maybe even a few diapers (Although I can't promise any were clean).<br />
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Either way, it was a comically miserable experience. And what actually happened to my van is a tragically stupid story. <br />
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After eleven days of insurance agents, tears and paperwork, we thought it was gone for good. Then my phone rang. It was a police officer from Normal, Illinois. He calmly and carefully explained that my van was "used in a crime."<br />
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What!? Used in a crime?!<br />
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A group of bumbling criminals in his city decided it was time to try one of those "smash and grab" maneuvers. Their search for the perfect battering ram brought them to my front door. Why drive over two hours to Chicago just to steal a van? Likely to separate the two crimes to avoid suspicion. At least <i>that</i> move was moderately intelligent.</div>
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"Smash and grabs" normally make headlines, but you won't find my van in any articles or videos online. Why? After stopping for some fast food and disposing of all three back seat benches, they were ready to steal stuff from a Sprint cell phone store. Then, poor planning or sheer incompetence took over. They turned around, threw it in reverse, and backed into the building. After multiple attempts, these geniuses only managed to smash through the first set of doors. They were soundly defeated by the second set of doors. So they left. With nothing.<br />
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Now, I'm glad for the Sprint store that nothing was stolen. But is it terrible of me to be disappointed? I mean, if you're going to steal my van, couldn't you at least use it correctly in the crime?<br />
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Anyway, having failed miserably, they drove it to a nice residential neighborhood and parked in front of someone's house. And there my van sat for about a week with no license plates, smashed windows and tons of body damage. Apparently it took the people living on this street about a week to decide it was worth calling the police about a "suspicious vehicle". Thank you, citizens of Normal, for using my van to make your city name ironic.<br />
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In the end, we settled with the insurance company and got another van. We also had DNA swabs and fingerprints taken so evidence from the old van could be processed (Admittedly, that part was kind of fun). And now, I've taken steps to simultaneously increase my coolness and our vehicle's security. You know that amazing chirping sound sports cars make when the security system is armed? My new van does that. Plus, I bought "<a href="http://www.theclub.com/">The Club</a>". Yes, that cheesy 1980's steering wheel lock still exists. Mine is an intimidatingly bright yellow color. I'm also considering installing a framed picture of my biceps on the dash. <br />
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Good luck stealing my van now, criminals. </div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15554902239046333884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448411714504460028.post-19780432814930414272015-03-28T17:36:00.003-05:002015-03-28T17:36:50.058-05:00New Conference Speaking Opportunity<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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For whatever reason, it seems like Christians are always about 10 years behind everyone else.<br />
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It wasn't always like this. Throughout history, followers of Jesus have been on the front lines of cultural advancement. Churches during the Renaissance <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Renaissance_art">commissioned</a> some of the greatest works of art the world has ever seen. Luther's ideas rapidly spread throughout Europe with the help of the <a href="http://www.economist.com/node/21541719">printing press</a>. Christians were among the early <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2013/03/the-next-great-innovation-in-christian.html">adopters and innovators of radio</a> in the 1920's. Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/01/the-epistle-youve-never-read.html">ended centuries of legalized oppression</a> through innovative non-violent protests, paired with print, radio and television media. <br />
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As a former history teacher, I love those stories. As a professional communicator, I'm inspired by them.<br />
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Whether serious or silly, I'm passionate about helping people see today's issues in a new way through the lens of faith. I'm also a <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/12/bloggers-keep-writing.html">strong advocate</a> for creating a personal platform so everyday people can harness the power of social media to share compelling ideas, and develop deeper connections.<br />
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Now more than ever, followers of Jesus need to enter the digital space with creativity, innovation and strategy. Pastors and churches have the opportunity to make a larger impact than ever before. That's why I'm excited to join a team of talented speakers for the 2015 "<a href="http://goingdigitalforhiskingdom.com/">Going Digital For His Kingdom</a>" conference series!<br />
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I'll be speaking at four separate events around the country in 2015. If you're in <a href="http://www.goingdigitalforgod.com/dt_portfolio/cleveland/"><b>Cleveland</b></a>, <a href="http://www.goingdigitalforgod.com/dt_portfolio/dallas/"><b>Dallas</b></a>, <a href="http://www.goingdigitalforgod.com/dt_portfolio/tampa-december-8/"><b>Tampa</b></a> or <a href="http://www.goingdigitalforgod.com/dt_portfolio/boston/"><b>Boston</b></a>, please encourage leaders in your church to attend. </div>
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I also ask that you'd pray for me as I seek God's direction for my participation in these events. May God receive all the glory. </div>
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<b>For details about where and when I'll be speaking, check out my new "Events" tab. Or just click <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/p/speaking.html">here</a>.</b><br />
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And don't forget to sign-up for my email list! It's completely free, and I won't bombard you with emails or share your information with anyone. Click on the "Sign Up" tab, or just click <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/p/email.html">here</a>. <b> </b><br />
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Everybody loves secrets.<br />
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Not just any kind of secret. People love <i><b>juicy </b></i>secrets. The ones that make you gasp in disbelief, and then run to tell someone else anyway. But we can't be too quick to dismiss the simplistic, boring truths that go largely unnoticed. They count as secrets too, since most people don't recognize them. <br />
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In this case, the secret to an interesting life isn't all that complicated. What is it?<br />
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<b>Presume you might be wrong about <i>everything</i></b>.<br />
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I've found it's ultimately a waste of time to spend energy defending entrenched positions. That doesn't mean I don't have strongly held convictions. The opposite is true. But I've discovered that it's relationally destructive to argue with someone in an effort to change their mind. Long term relationships are more valuable than winning a particular debate. And over time, trusted friends will not only listen to your beliefs, but they'll actually <i>want</i> to hear them.<br />
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Admittedly, entering a conversation presuming I could be wrong isn't comfortable. At all. My ego would rather confidently share answers than listen to diverse ideas. So, if you're interested in joining me on this journey toward a more interesting life, here's some basic strategies:<br />
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<li><b>Don't equate disagreement with stupidity. </b>If I admit I've done it, would you? We all too often assume that somebody holds a different position because they're uneducated. Or because they have wrong information. Or because they're just plain dumb. But if you step back a bit, you'll realize that this practice is arrogant, rude and easy to spot. Plus - what if <i><b>you're</b></i> the one who's wrong?</li>
<li><b>Be like Socrates. </b>He wasn't considered wise because he knew a lot of things. Socrates loved to <a href="http://www.history.com/topics/ancient-history/socrates">ask questions</a>. Rather than defend ideas, he pursued understand through thoughtful inquiry. This approach has added benefits. When you ask questions, people feel heard and appreciated. That goes a long way toward building respect and trust. </li>
<li><b>Actually listen.</b> If you're like me, listening is a challenge. When you're talking, I'm probably formulating my next response. That's why I'm constantly reminding myself that listening means hearing. And hearing leads to understanding.<b> </b>None of those things can be accomplished if you're drowning out the words of others with your own thoughts.</li>
<li><b>Swallow your pride</b>. Contrary to popular belief, wisdom and knowledge are completely different. Knowledge is pretty straight forward. It's all the stuff you know. But wisdom is counter-intuitive, because the wise deeply understand how much they <i><b>don't</b></i> know. That's why <a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=James+3%3A13-16&version=NLT">God said</a> humility is the <i><b>result </b></i>of wisdom. That means it would actually be wise to approach a conversation with enough humility to admit that you might be wrong.<b> </b></li>
<li><b>Get Curious</b>. Kids are insatiably curious. But for whatever reason, curiosity gets lost when you become an adult. So what would curiosity look like if we didn't lose it with age? Expressing genuine interest in someone else's ideas. Most people fake interest with polite smiles and nods. Meanwhile, internal dialogue says things like "Will this person ever stop talking?" or "Where in the world do they come up with this stuff?" Unless you think you're the greatest thing since sliced bread, a little curiosity might do you some good. If you're not careful, you might even learn something.</li>
<li><b>Be 'Likeable'</b>. In radio and television, hosts strive for something called "likeability". It's that overall sum of personality qualities that makes someone say, "I like that guy!" Looking for an example? <a href="http://www.nbc.com/the-tonight-show/about">Jimmy Fallon</a> is likeability personified. People love him because he's fun. He lets others shine. He's confidently awkward and genuinely humble. He's not afraid to look foolish, and enjoys being around others. Want an interesting life? Try to increase your likeability. And don't forget that nobody likes someone who thinks they're right about everything. </li>
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The older I get, the less I know. Sounds strange, but it's true. Maturity brings the humbling realization that life is more complicated than originally thought. As a result, debates have lost their luster. So I'm journeying toward what seems to be a more interesting life. It starts with presuming I might be wrong, and you might be right. Care to join me? <br />
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What's your secret sin?<br />
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Everybody has one. It's that part of your life where depravity seems to have the strongest grip. Most don't fight the kind of sin that's evident to the world around them. It's the internal battles with things like gossip and lust that consume the average Christian. But even worse are those sins that we're either unaware of, or are unwilling to acknowledge. In fact, I've come to realize that American followers of Jesus collectively suffer from one particularly destructive sin that has gone largely unrecognized. What is it?<br />
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<b>The idolatry of politics.</b><br />
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God is supposed to be our first intellectual stop in life. He's our focal point of truth and direction. So anything that supplants His primary position is considered an idol. Far too often, I see followers of Jesus in America allowing partisan politics to shape their view of the world. God has been relegated exclusively to their spiritual lives, while they inadvertently shut Him out of their cultural, intellectual and interpersonal existence.<br />
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Don't believe me? Here's the primary symptoms that illustrate how politics has become an idol for many Christians today:<b> </b><br />
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<li><b>The disposition of political opponents. </b>In politics, the other party is your enemy. Your job is to defeat them. Even despise them. In the Christian faith, you're supposed to <a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+5%3A44&version=NLT">love your enemy</a>. See the problem here? If you spend time demonizing your political opponents online or in conversation, you're not following Jesus. You're following your idol.<b> </b></li>
<li><b>The oversimplification of complex issues.</b> Lots of organizations make it easier for us to vote. They create simple charts that enable everyone to quickly determine whether a candidate is "for" or "against" an issue. Since this is so convenient, many have decided to transfer the concept to faith. They've awkwardly squeezed the omniscience of God into a cute little political checklist. Just like many political issues are much more complicated than we'd like to admit, God is much bigger than we care to acknowledge. So let's stop oversimplifying the Creator of the universe, who reminded us that "<a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Isaiah%2066&version=NIV">...Heaven is my throne, and the earth is my footstool. Where is the house you will build for me?</a>"<b> </b></li>
<li><b>The wrong source for cultural analysis. </b>If someone has questions about prayer, they turn to God. The afterlife? Same thing. But if an African American teenager gets shot in Ferguson, Missouri, they run to Bill O'Reilly or Bill Maher. As I've <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/12/you-might-be-wrong-about-ferguson-and.html">written before</a>, this is unwise at best. We end up looking inconsistent and strange when we post a Bible verse on Facebook in the morning, followed by hate-filled partisan political rhetoric in the afternoon. Whether we like it or not, we cannot compartmentalize loving our neighbor. Particularly in the midst of contentious cultural issues.</li>
<li><b>The political litmus test for faith. </b>Somehow, many Christians have decided that there's one particular political party that's inherently more Christian than another. In essence, they believe that if someone isn't affiliated with their favorite party, their eternal salvation is probably in jeopardy. This is absolute foolishness. A broad examination of Biblical principles would take you across both sides of the aisle, and into many third parties. And the opposite concept is also true. All political parties fall short of God's standards, just like we do.</li>
<li><b>The means of societal change.</b> It's an idea that looks good on the surface. Armed with good intentions, many Christians have tried to change America by legislating Biblical morality. They hope to compel conformity with the rule of law. Unfortunately, this is a short sighted approach. It neglects that essential problem solving question everyone must ask - "Then what?" For example, let's just say you could pass every faith-based bill of your dreams. <i>Then what?</i> Would people instantly start following Jesus? I doubt it. Laws don't change hearts or make disciples. God does. Through you. </li>
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Watch the news. Listen to your favorite talk radio program. Make educated decisions in the voting booth. Stand firm on Biblical truth. But stop making politics your idol. This sin is hurting others, misrepresenting the Gospel, and probably keeping others from Christ.<br />
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Turn signals are counterproductive.<br />
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It's happened to everyone. You're stuck in heavy traffic, crawling a few inches an hour. Annoyed at everyone else on the road, you decide it's time to change lanes. Thankfully, the guy next to you seems nice. He left a small gap, basically inviting you to move in front of him. With a grin, you flick the turn signal. Then he quickly crushes all of your faith in humanity by tapping on the accelerator. Gap closed. Opportunity lost. Day ruined.<br />
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Don't worry. I've figured out how to solve this problem. Using my innovative strategy, I can freely change lanes in heavy traffic whenever I want. And this has been a closely guarded family secret.<br />
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Until now.<br />
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So buckle up (both figuratively and literally), and prepare yourself to be amazed:<br />
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<li><b>STEP 1</b>: Lower your sunglasses on your nose. Make them look like an old lady wearing reading glasses. Just trust me on this. It increases the effectiveness of what you're about to do.</li>
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<li><b>STEP 2</b>: Engage your turn signal. Why? Two reasons. First, it tests the character of the person next to you (Sorry optimists, but I'm basically guaranteeing they won't let you in). Second, <a href="http://www.drive-safely.net/illinois-turn-signal-laws.html">it's the law</a>. Cool people obey the law.<b> </b></li>
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<li><b>STEP 3</b>: Roll down your window. I don't care if it's January in Fargo - just do it. If you don't like the cold air, crank up the heat first. </li>
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<li><b>STEP 4</b>: Increase the space between you and the car in front of you. But don't leave too much room. You wouldn't want to let anyone in front of you. Just leave enough space to safely execute the next few steps. </li>
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<li><b>STEP 5</b>: Turn your head, and stick it slightly out the window. Be sure your sunglasses are still down on your nose. This is the key to making everything work. </li>
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<li><b>STEP 6</b>: Quickly turn back, and look the other driver directly in the eyes. Give them one of those stern "let me in" looks. </li>
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<li><b>STEP 7</b>: Keep staring, with your head slightly tilted down and your eyebrows raised. At this point, you'll notice the other driver pretend they don't see you. Why? They're embarrassed that you caught them intentionally keeping you from changing lanes. The overwhelming shame of this selfish decision is too much to bear. That means it's time to close the deal. </li>
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<li><b>STEP 8</b>: Carefully stick your arm out the window, and point to that tiny space they've left. While your arm is out, quickly glance forward to make sure you're not going to crash. Then, turn back and give one more intense glare. The other driver will immediately act surprised to see you. Miraculously, they'll widen the gap and let you in. Some will even wave you over with a fake smile. </li>
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<li><b>STEP 9</b>: Place your head and arm back inside the vehicle, and take your spot in the next lane. Once you've taken your rightful place, raise your right arm and give them a courtesy wave. This will make them feel like they did something generous.</li>
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<li><i><b>VARIATION</b></i>: If you've got someone in the passenger seat and need to move to the right, ask them to perform a variation of the above steps. Just have them add a little more emotion. Since they don't have to watch the road, they can afford the extra effort.<span style="color: red;"><i><b> </b></i></span></li>
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<li><span style="color: red;"><i><b>DISCLAIMER</b></i></span>: I'm not responsible for any accidents caused by you doing this incorrectly. The technique above is designed for traffic jams only. Lesser variations should be applied to faster moving situations.</li>
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Your life has now changed for the better. Feel free to thank me in the comment section below. <br />
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<br />Time flies when you're getting old.<br />
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I mean, we all know I don't <i><b>look </b></i>old. Still strikingly handsome and youthful at 35. But time seems to be constantly quickening. 2014 brought me a <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/03/baby-boy.html">fifth child</a>, a <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/07/a-new-role-on-new-show.html">new job</a> and another <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/01/a-recipe-for-modern-heroism.html">trip to Africa</a>. In the midst of this, I managed to carve out the time to do a little writing.<br />
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And I'm truly grateful to all of you who've taken time out of your busy life to read, discuss and share my posts. Thank you so much! I'm looking forward to interacting with you more in 2015.<br />
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One of the more interesting exercises at the end of the year in blogging is analyzing which posts garnered the most traffic. With that in mind, here's my top 5 most popular posts of 2014: <br />
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1) <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/04/9-questions-not-to-ask-large-families.html">9 Questions Not to Ask Large Families</a><br />
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2) <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/08/two-words-that-prove-racism-exists-in.html">Two Words that Prove Racism Exists in the Church</a><br />
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3) <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/02/an-impossible-choice.html">An Impossible Choice</a><br />
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4) <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/12/you-might-be-wrong-about-ferguson-and.html">You Might Be Wrong about Ferguson, and Racism</a><br />
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5) <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/02/the-struggle-no-father-dares-to-discuss.html">The Struggle No Father Dares to Discuss</a><br />
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It's time for Christians to have productive conversations about racism.<br />
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Recent grand jury decisions in Ferguson and New York City exposed the open wound of racism in our society. Unfortunately, far too many followers of Jesus have allowed political pundits to dominate their thinking on this issue. And many white evangelicals continue to deny the need to address racism both in America and in the church.<br />
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In the midst of this, I've been doing my best to speak logically, compassionately and Biblically about the need for Christians to openly discuss racism and racial reconciliation. <br />
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On Tuesday, December 9th, it was my privilege to participate in a panel discussion at the Moody Bible Institute called "Ferguson: Think Biblically". This event was hosted by Moody's African American student group, "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/MoodyEmbrace?fref=ts">Embrace</a>". I shared the stage with Moody Bible Institute professors <a href="http://www.moody.edu/edu_mainWF.aspx?pageid=103973&id=104423">Clive Craigen</a>, <a href="http://www.moody.edu/edu_mainWF.aspx?pageid=103973&id=104449">Ernest Gray</a>, and <a href="http://www.moody.edu/edu_mainWF.aspx?pageid=103973&id=104415">Angela Brown</a>. You can listen to the entire event below (After introductions, the discussion begins at 13:43):<br />
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Under normal circumstances, you wouldn't expect this to happen when 1,500 people gather for worship.<br />
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It shouldn't be dangerous. But on <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2011/05/20/opinion/20Lafayette.html">this particular night</a>, the service ended with the congregation huddled in the basement fearing for their lives. You see, while they were listening to sermons and singing songs, an angry crowd gathered outside. Eventually, 3,000 white residents of Montgomery, Alabama surrounded the church and threatened to burn it down. Why? Among the worshipers were a small group of people known as "Freedom Riders". They tried to peacefully protest segregated Greyhound buses and bus stations throughout the south. They received a <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2011/05/20/opinion/20Lafayette.html?_r=0">violent reception</a> when they arrived in Montgomery by bus the day before.<br />
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Huddled in the basement, one of the speakers picked-up a telephone to call for help. But he didn't call the police. He didn't call the Governor of Alabama either. They probably wouldn't have responded. As bricks smashed through the basement windows and tear gas drifted in, Martin Luther King Jr. called U.S. Attorney General Robert F. Kennedy for help. After a night of negotiation with authorities, Kennedy finally secured the safe release of the parishioners and the Freedom Riders <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/First_Baptist_Church_%28Montgomery,_Alabama%29">around 4AM</a>.<br />
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You may have slept through history class in high school, but God loves history. Even a casual reading of the Bible reveals the rich history of Israel, the Jewish people and the early church. Clearly God values history, and wants us to learn from it.<br />
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In order to fully understand the deep racial divide in America today, we must follow God's lead and consider the history behind it. Rather than re-taking high school history, let me give you a few relevant highlights.<br />
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Abraham Lincoln's Emancipation Proclamation <a href="http://www.history.com/news/5-things-you-may-not-know-about-lincoln-slavery-and-emancipation">didn't really end slavery</a>. After <a href="http://www.history.com/topics/black-history/slavery">almost 250 years</a>, slavery was finally abolished in the United States with the <a href="http://www.history.com/this-day-in-history/house-passes-the-13th-amendment">passage of the 13th Amendment</a> on January 31st, 1865. At that moment, approximately <a href="http://www.civil-war.net/census.asp?census=Total">4 million</a> people were suddenly released into a society that didn't want them. To make matters more complicated, <a href="http://books.google.com/books?id=bYTPx25yHJgC&pg=PA324&lpg=PA324&dq=90+percent+of+slaves+were+illiterate&source=bl&ots=bRdTTXVTK7&sig=ieIuRbZhAR23scAEIa6gZFSeBSY&hl=en&sa=X&ei=V-2FVOaCL8mgyASWooDADw&ved=0CCUQ6AEwAQ#v=onepage&q=90%20percent%20of%20slaves%20were%20illiterate&f=false">90 percent </a>of the slave population was illiterate. Just imagine the challenge facing these battered families. After almost 10 <a href="http://www.ancestry.com/cs/Satellite?childpagename=UKLearningCenter%2FLearning_C%2FPageDefault&pagename=LearningWrapper&cid=1265124426382">generations</a> of forced labor in brutal conditions, few had marketable skills outside of farm labor. Due to the color of their skin, none of them would be able to assimilate into an unwelcoming culture. It should come as no surprise that the Ku Klux Klan was <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ku_Klux_Klan">launched in 1865</a> as well. <br />
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As if that wasn't bad enough, hope was dashed in the form of broken promises. Union General William T. Sherman <a href="http://www.pbs.org/wnet/african-americans-many-rivers-to-cross/history/the-truth-behind-40-acres-and-a-mule/">issued a bold "Field Order"</a> in January of 1865 that would allow freed slaves to occupy up to 40 acres of abandoned farm land on the Atlantic coast. President Andrew Johnson swiftly <a href="http://www.pbs.org/wnet/african-americans-many-rivers-to-cross/history/the-truth-behind-40-acres-and-a-mule/">overturned that order</a> less than a year later.<br />
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So there they were - 4 million black people with absolutely nothing in a country that viewed them as less than human. If only the justice system would persuade white Americans to accept these former slaves as equals. Unfortunately, it did the opposite. <br />
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<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plessy_v._Ferguson">Homer Plessy</a> was a man ahead of his time. <a href="http://www.history.com/topics/black-history/plessy-v-ferguson">27 years</a> after the slaves were freed, Homer represented a group of individuals in an act of civil disobedience. They attempted to peacefully protest segregated rail cars in Louisiana. After purchasing a first class ticket, Homer walked onto a "whites-only" car and took a seat. His subsequent arrest ultimately resulted in a landmark 1896 Supreme Court decision. Plessy v. Ferguson established the "<a href="http://www.history.com/topics/black-history/plessy-v-ferguson">separate but equal</a>" doctrine for society. It officially legalized the separation of black and white America. And the whole "equal" part was never realized. Instead, a series of <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jim_Crow_laws">Jim Crow</a> laws systematically oppressed African Americans for another 69 years. <br />
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So where do <i><b>we</b></i> fit into this story? While Martin Luther King Jr. was desperately pleading for Robert Kennedy's help in the basement of that Montgomery church, my dad was a 10 year old kid sleeping peacefully in his Minneapolis bed. When President Lyndon Johnson signed the <a href="http://www.history.com/topics/black-history/civil-rights-act">Civil Rights Act of 1964</a>, dad was just two months shy of his 14th birthday .<br />
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Legalized segregation and discrimination simply wasn't that long ago. <br />
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So isn't it possible, or even probable, that the racial injustice that was woven into the very fabric of our continent for over 340 years could still persist in society today? Of course it is.<br />
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That's why I cringe whenever I hear someone talk about being "color blind". This seemingly noble proclamation denies the stark historical reality that black and white America developed within the same borders on distinctly different paths. One group established the government and mainstream culture. The other struggled to survive being shut-out of both.<br />
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This painful story isn't a scar to dwell on. Rather, it's a clear explanation for our current racial divide. And an opportunity for us to make the next chapter redemptive.<br />
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Progress requires spiritual answers. It also demands the good works described by <a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=James+2%3A14-26&version=NLT">James</a>, the bold cross-cultural conversations <a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=John+4">modeled by Jesus</a>, and the defense of the oppressed called for by God through <a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Isaiah%201:17&version=NIV">Isaiah</a>. If you choose color blindness, you choose stagnation. You choose historical ignorance. And you deny the culturally diverse reality that God created. Instead, choose to be empowered by history. Only then can you effectively <i><b>be</b></i> the Gospel in the midst of our divided culture today.<br />
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Does that title make you uncomfortable? Good.<br />
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Human nature leads us to people we trust for information. We all tend to create a small circle filled with experts that share our worldview. They think, act, and vote like us. They probably look like us too. This mutual admiration society feels good, because we agree on most things.<br />
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Unfortunately, this is a dangerous environment. It breeds an "us vs. them" mentality, and promotes a limited intellectual approach to life. Those truly interested in pursuing wisdom and knowledge will deliberately examine diverse perspectives before drawing conclusions.<br />
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Nowhere is this more prevalent than in partisan political discourse. And Christians should never fall into this trap. Of course, there's nothing inherently wrong with favoring political parties or positions. But all too often in America today, white evangelicals view society first and foremost through a political lens. I'm pretty sure I don't need to remind you that Republicans and Democrats aren't in the Bible. Neither is America. <br />
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This cultural flaw among my fellow white Christians has been highlighted by what started in Ferguson, and is spreading around the country. I've been shocked and disheartened to watch many of my white Christian friends clinging to conservative political pundits for Ferguson analysis. They repeat rhetoric on social media that they heard spouted on radio stations and websites that depend upon their energized base to generate revenue. Basically, these pundits are telling you what you want to hear so you'll keep reading, and they'll keep making money.<br />
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Followers of Jesus, we cannot succumb to this flawed thinking! Instead, we must lean on Biblical truth and seek wisdom from our diverse community of believers. Let's do both here.<br />
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While many Bible passages could be shared related to the spark that ignited in Ferguson, let's just focus on the <a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+22:36-40&version=NLT">Greatest Commandment</a>: Love God, and love your neighbor as yourself. Instead of pretending that I know more than you about this portion of Scripture, I'll just ask you to consider a few questions:<br />
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<li>Are you loving your African American neighbor if you dismiss their concerns about racism in America? </li>
<li>Have you asked your African American Christian friends how they feel about Ferguson? If not, why not? </li>
<li>If you don't have any African American friends, are you falling short of what Jesus expects of us in the Greatest Commandment?</li>
<li>Have you asked your Pastor what the Bible teaches about racism and justice? </li>
<li>Have you taken the time to understand an African American perspective about Ferguson by reading any blog posts or articles from African American pastors?</li>
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My prayer isn't that you would agree with me about racism, or about Ferguson. It's not about me. My prayer is simply that you would open your heart and your mind to loving your African American neighbor. What's the first step? Listening. Did you realize that many attorneys and African Americans are legitimately questioning whether the grand jury proceedings were just? Have you heard that many prominent white Christian leaders are calling for the church to acknowledge and address racism? Did you know that many of the statistics about black families and violence are incomplete and often misrepresented?<br />
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I'll do my best to help you find these thoughts. I've complied a short reading list of some thought provoking articles about Ferguson written by Christians. I challenge you to read them with the Greatest Commandment in mind:<br />
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<li>"<a href="http://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/thabitianyabwile/2014/11/27/four-common-but-misleading-themes-in-ferguson-like-times/">Four Common But Misleading Themes in Ferguson-Like Times</a>" </li>
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<li>"<a href="http://www.russellmoore.com/2014/11/24/ferguson-and-the-path-to-peace/">Ferguson and the Path to Peace</a>"</li>
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<li>"<a href="http://www.billboard.com/articles/columns/the-juice/6327837/lecrae-ferguson">Lecrae on Ferguson: 'The System We Have in Place Has Biases'</a>" </li>
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<li>"<a href="http://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/thabitianyabwile/2014/11/26/why-i-believe-the-grand-jury-got-it-wrong-and-injustice-triumphed/">Why I Believe the Grand Jury Got it Wrong and Injustice Triumphed</a>" </li>
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<li>"<a href="http://mustardtomission.wordpress.com/2014/11/26/no-indictment-is-outrageous-even-if-wilson-is-innocent/?utm_content=buffer1dbb1&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer">No Indictment is Outrageous, Even if Wilson is Innocent</a>"</li>
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<li>"<a href="http://tonyevans.org/2014/11/tony-evans-reflections-on-ferguson/">Tony Evans' Reflections on Ferguson</a>" </li>
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<li>"<a href="http://www.christianitytoday.com/edstetzer/2014/november/why-you-should-still-care-about-ferguson-despite-facts.html?paging=off">Why You Should Still Care About Ferguson DESPITE the Facts</a>" </li>
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<li>"<a href="http://drewgihart.com/2014/12/01/black-on-black-violence-pastor-voddie-bauchams-assault-on-black-people-by-austin-channing-brown-christena-cleveland-drew-hart-and-efrem-smith/">Black on Black Violence: Pastor Voddie Baucham's Assault on Black People</a>"</li>
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"I wish all of those bloggers would stop writing about Ferguson and actually start doing something to make a difference."<br />
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I've heard complaints about bloggers before. But this one made my skin crawl.<br />
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For whatever reason, some find it annoying that the internet created a platform for average people. Sure, there's lots of noise out there. But I celebrate the fact that publishers and periodicals are no longer necessary for ideas to be exchanged. I've found that some of the most impactful pieces come from those who don't have a resume that includes formal publication. What could be more American than empowering the individual to have a voice in society?<br />
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But the idea that writing doesn't constitute action is misguided, historically inaccurate and just plain wrong.<br />
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Sure, a solider could easily destroy most writers in a fist fight. Great speakers could energize a crowd more quickly than an author. But writers armed with ideas have sparked revolutions, established governments, captured hearts and changed the world. <br />
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Let's not forget the influence of Homer's <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homer">Illiad and Odyssey</a>. Imagine a church without Martin Luther's <a href="http://www.history.com/topics/martin-luther-and-the-95-theses">95 Theses</a>. Then there's that <a href="http://www.history.com/this-day-in-history/thomas-paine-publishes-common-sense">little pamphlet</a> by Thomas Paine that fueled the flames of revolution in America. And our Constitution probably wouldn't have been ratified without a series of essays known as <a href="http://www.foundingfathers.info/federalistpapers/">The Federalist Papers</a>. Or how about that <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/01/the-epistle-youve-never-read.html">brilliant letter</a> scribbled on scraps of paper by Martin Luther King Jr. in a Birmingham jail. It motivated an entire nation to seek justice for the oppressed. And were it not for the <a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=2%20Timothy%203:16">inspired words</a> of Moses, the Prophets and the Apostles, I might not be a follower of Jesus.<br />
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I could keep going, but you get the point. <br />
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So bloggers, keep writing. I need your commentaries and thoughts to better understand the cultural tensions behind Ferguson. Your words enable me to leave my circle of friends and learn from diverse perspectives. And your efforts propel all of us toward a better society.<br />
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Filters make life better for everyone. Particularly when they're applied to your thoughts.<br />
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Just think about all of the outrageous things you <i>almost</i> said. The jokes that seemed funny in your mind. The questions you thought were appropriate. The ideas that didn't seem so stupid at first. Gratefully, that invisible filter in your brain prevented these outlandish things from actually making it to your lips.<br />
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But, have you ever noticed how many people don't seem to have any filter at all?<br />
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My wife and I discovered this uncomfortable epidemic after having a bunch of kids. I shared some of the hilarious and outrageous questions we've been asked in <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/04/9-questions-not-to-ask-large-families.html">a recent post on the subject</a>. And it was a blast laughing along with others who shared similar experiences in the comment stream. However, in the midst of this, I discovered that there's another type of family that has it worse than we do. Who is it?<br />
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Families that adopt children.<br />
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Even though my wife and I haven't adopted any kids (yet), I'll gladly dive head-first into this one. Consider my list below a public service announcement on behalf of those who adopt. Oh, and special thanks to <a href="http://www.stpaulsbiblechurch.org/our-staff.html">Pastor Jason and Sue Kreider</a>, and blogger <a href="http://jenieats.com/">Jeni Flaa</a> for their contributions to this list of things <i><b>not</b></i> to say to those with adopted children:<b> </b><br />
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<li><b>"Can't you have your own babies?"</b> Yes, you read that correctly. Not only is this question hurtful and offensive, it's just plain weird. I mean, do you really want to know about another person's ability to conceive? You know, all the intimate details about sperm, eggs, and a uterus. I didn't think so.<b> </b></li>
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<li><b>"Everyone I know who adopted, got pregnant." </b>The last time I checked, there's only one way to get pregnant. You'll also be hard pressed to find anyone who chose adoption as a fertility strategy. Of course, God has worked some amazing miracles for couples who were previously unable to have kids. But let's not forget that adoption is an intentional <i><b>choice</b></i>. For some, it's a calling. Reducing adoption to a superstitious child bearing strategy devalues kids, and the families that adopt them.<b> </b></li>
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<li><b>"Are they your real kids?</b>" Nope. The <i>real </i>kids are locked in the basement. But don't worry. I see what you're doing here. You're trying to ask whether the kids you're looking at are biologically related to the parents. Fair enough. Just remember that in adoptive families, kids aren't divided into "real" and "adopted" categories. They're all just "my kids".<b> </b></li>
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<li><b>"His birth mom must have been on drugs or really young."</b> Sadly, our culture has created a strange caricature of parents who make an adoption plan for their child. Sure, some choose adoption due to addictions or young age. But not everyone. Many people make mature decisions for the future of their children. Bottom line - any assumptions about motives will be hurtful. Don't forget that in <a href="http://www.adoptionhelp.org/qa/what-open-adoption">open adoptions</a>, kids have a relationship with their birth parents. So your premature conclusion about their parents would be offensive at best.<b> </b></li>
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<li><b>"Where did you get him? How much did he cost?"</b> Walmart had this great deal on kids. <i><b>Really </b></i>cheap. Want one? Anyway, you've clearly got some legitimate questions about adoption, and this child. First, I'd suggest consulting <a href="https://www.adoptivefamilies.com/pdf/PositiveLanguage.pdf">this resource</a> for some better vocabulary choices. Then, take some time to consider personal boundaries. It's typically considered abnormal to ask complete strangers about their personal finances or ethnic background. <b> </b></li>
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<li><b>"Are the birth parents going to try to get them back?"</b> Again, this question firmly fits into the "off limits" category for strangers and casual acquaintances. But, it represents a legitimate fear for those who don't know much about adoption. The media loves to share heart wrenching stories about birth parents returning to demand custody of their kids. While these situations are tragic, they're <a href="http://adoptuskids.org/for-families/how-to-adopt/common-myths-about-adoption#birth-parents">actually quite rare</a>. When it happens, the agency and/or lawyers that made the adoption happen didn't do their jobs correctly. That's why it's so important for those seriously considering adoption to know adoption law. And spend time investigating agencies and attorneys. <b> </b></li>
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<li><b>"Did you cheat on your husband?"</b> Yes, a real human being actually asked this question. Out loud. To a complete stranger. Why? Because the race of the child didn't visibly match the race of the parent. There's really nothing else that can be said here. Just let all of the awful ignorance soak in, and move on to the next point.<b> </b></li>
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<li><b>"Are you raising them white?"</b> Even though my wife and I haven't adopted any kids, adoption is closely connected to our family story. My mom was adopted. At that time, interracial adoption was virtually unheard of. Today, we've gratefully reached a point where interracial adoption is both acceptable and commonplace. However, this bluntly stated question is jarring to some. Confusing to others. Ultimately, the intent is to determine whether a child's ethnic and cultural background will be honored. The good news is that many families who adopt are sensitive to this issue, and take time to instill a proper sense of ethnic identity. But, we'd all benefit from some more sophisticated and sensitive language when asking this particular question.<b> </b></li>
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<li><b>"How will she learn to speak English?"</b> Wow. There's so many layers of ignorance here. Keep in mind that someone said this to a white couple with a Korean infant. Sadly, it appears that some people think language is assigned genetically by race. And that adopted babies acquire language differently than biological babies. Wow. </li>
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Sometimes, the best thing we can do is laugh about questions like these. At the same time, it's blatantly clear that our society has a warped view of adoption. It's my prayer that posts like this will creatively raise awareness, and motivate Christians to take <a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=James+1%3A27&version=NLT">orphan care</a> more seriously. When that happens, more kids will get the love and support they deserve. And the rest of us will be spared from hearing these weird questions.<br />
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Complainers are annoying. But we need them.<br />
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Most people would rather ignore problems. It's less stressful. And more fun. But throughout history, the consistent laments of various people groups have forced humanity to finally address injustices. So in that sense, complainers are irritatingly necessary.<br />
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Over the last few years, I've been intentionally annoying about racism.<br />
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As a 35 year old white guy, I really shouldn't care about race issues. My passions in this area are admittedly accidental. After <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2013/04/is-it-safe-there.html">moving to the South Side of Chicago</a>, it became impossible to ignore racism. So I started writing.<br />
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I've expressed my frustration about the <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2013/04/why-so-much-apathy.html">apathy of white people</a>. I've explained why we <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/01/the-problem-with-ignoring-problems.html">can't ignore racism</a>. I basically proved that racism is an issue using only <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/08/two-words-that-prove-racism-exists-in.html">two words</a>. But in the end, I keep getting the same question:<br />
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That's a fair question. So I'm going to cross the fine line between lamentation and leadership. While complainers identify and expose problems, leaders try to solve them. This is my attempt to speak constructively into one of the most important problems of our time. It's also my call for Christians to lead this cultural change. The unifying power of the Gospel has fully equipped us for the challenge. <br />
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I'm not a student of racial reconciliation theory, nor am I an expert on race relations. But I'm a white guy who has lived for a number of years in a black community. This experience has provided me with a truly unique perspective of both sides of the racial divide. <br />
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So, how can followers of Jesus foster racial reconciliation in America? Here's my 12 point vision:<b> </b><br />
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<li><b>Remove the phrase 'color blind' from your vocabulary. </b>While the idea of being 'color blind' sounds nice, it's actually incredibly counter-productive. Why? It forces the subscribers of this perspective to intentionally ignore cultural differences. While all people share common ground as human beings, we also have dramatically different cultural experiences. And cultural variety is a <i><b>good </b></i>thing. I can confidently tell you that whites and blacks in America have distinctly different cultural experiences. If you don't agree, you've clearly never spent meaningful time with people from another race. And ignoring these differences by being "colorblind" is unhelpful at best. More likely, it's ignorant and insulting. Let's celebrate our cultural differences rather than pretend they aren't there.</li>
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<li><b>Acknowledge that racism happens among and between <i>all</i> races - </b>There are racist white people. There's also racist African Americans, Latinos and Asians. In fact, anyone who has studied cultures around the globe knows that racism isn't uniquely an American problem. It's a human problem. And this particular point is an obstacle for many white people when talking about race. While racism is experienced much more frequently and severely by minorities in America, this doesn't negate the fact that white people have experienced it as well. So, when white people raise this point in conversations about racism, it would be best to simply acknowledge the point and move on. Remember that acknowledging the existence of racists in every ethnic group isn't a commentary about the proportion or severity of the problem therein.<b> </b><b> </b></li>
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<li><b><b>Move On from "It's Not My Fault" - </b></b>I've heard many white Americans say things like, "My ancestors didn't own slaves, so this isn't my issue." Others say, "I wasn't alive during legal segregation, so I didn't create this problem." Still more proclaim, "I'm not a racist, so this isn't my fault." While all of these statements may be true, they aren't helpful. Regardless of whether your ancestors were slaves, slave holders, segregationists or civil rights activists, you're left with the mess. We're all living in the consequences of a long history of institutionalized racism in America. We can choose to either absolve ourselves of blame, or be an agent of change. Why <b><i>not </i></b>determine to make our society better for our children?<b> </b></li>
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<li><b><b><b><b>Set Aside Politics </b>- </b></b></b>Everyone should exercise their civic duties. But let's stop making political party affiliation a litmus test for faith. Nothing divides us more as followers of Jesus than partisan politics. Embarrassingly, black and white Christians continue to stare at each other in disgust across the political aisle. Stop it. Now. Are we really in a place where we've put politics ahead of faith? I hope not. Let's start focusing on the Savior that unites us, rather than the political issues that divide us. I'd like to believe that unity in Christ may even serve to foster some civil political discourse among believers of different races. Maybe we'd even find some new common ground. <b><b> </b></b></li>
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<li><b><b>Have an uncomfortable, yet gracious conversation. </b></b>Many white people are scared to have serious conversations about race. Why? They're afraid of being called a racist. Or unintentionally offending someone. That's why everyone needs to extend an abundance of grace when talking about racial issues. And we need to stop feeling offended so easily. Enter conversations about race expecting to be uncomfortable, and prepared to be hurt. At the same time, assume that others aren't intentionally making you feel that way. Their honest dialogue is likely born out of curiosity, ignorance, frustration, fear and a wide variety of other sources. </li>
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<li><b>Re-integrate Neighborhoods</b> - It's an embarrassing phenomenon. It may have happened on your street, just like it did on mine. We call it "white flight". Many neighborhoods across the South Side of Chicago used to be predominantly white. When African Americans began moving into the area in the late 1960's, white people fled as quickly as possible. Hence the name "white flight". When it's time for us to move, we should explore <i><b>all </b></i>neighborhoods. Consider moving to an African American neighborhood with beautiful homes and wonderful people. Wouldn't it be a powerful witness if followers of Jesus made it <i><b>normal</b></i> to cross cultural boundaries when buying a home? </li>
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<li><b>Dare to stay</b> - It didn't used to bother me. But now the phrase makes me shudder. Whenever people in a suburban area start talking about their neighborhood "going downhill", they aren't usually talking about crime. They're typically talking about diversity. As African Americans, Latinos and Asians move into a community, white people leave. Someone has to break this pattern. Why<i><b> shouldn't</b></i> it be Christians? In fact, since white people are the ones fleeing residential diversity in America, I believe we have the responsibility to reverse the trend. When diversity enters our neighborhoods, we need to stay.</li>
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<li><b><b>Don't Assume that diversity within a congregation is the answer. </b></b>It's naive to assume that the presence of diversity automatically eliminates racism. We also can't forget that there are some areas where diversity isn't practical. What do you do with the rural community in South Dakota that's primarily white? Should they feel guilty for their lack of diversity? What about the African American congregation on the South Side of Chicago? Should we expect people to drive for hours just for the sake of diversity? That isn't practical. Instead, Christians from all cultural backgrounds should prioritize cross-cultural friendships. Casual acquaintances at the office don't count. Make the effort to invest time in a real friendship with someone that doesn't look like you.<b> </b></li>
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<li><b>Drop the 'Savior Complex' </b>- This one is delicate. So let's dive-in head first. Black, Hispanic and Asian people don't need white people. At least not any more than white people need them. So let's get our minds out of the colonial era, and into the 21st century. Why? The 'savior complex' is a dangerous ideology that creates a false sense of superiority shrouded in good intentions. Dare to consider the <i><b>opposite </b></i>approach. Find a mentor of a different ethnicity. Study a Black or Hispanic theologian. Join a church with Black leadership. Bottom line - strive to be the student instead of the teacher. </li>
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<li><b>Honor Cultural Differences - </b>My college anthropology professor was quick to teach us that normal is relative when examining cultural traits. It's a simple, yet profound truth. That means that almost all cultural attributes aren't a matter if right and wrong. They're a matter of traditions and norms. Food, family relationships, holidays, and child rearing can be dramatically different when comparing ethnic groups. So accept that your way isn't the <i><b>only</b></i> way. Then celebrate this truth. Maybe you'll even learn something.<b> </b><b> </b></li>
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<li><b>Do Good Together</b> - Concerned about disagreeing on issues? Worried about cultural differences? Forget about it. Just start by uniting across cultural boundaries to address universal problems. And do so in the name of Jesus. Every community battles poverty, violence, dwindling resources, marital problems and a more. Think of the good we could do in these areas if we simply worked together! And our unity in Christian service would speak volumes to a culture divided by race.<b> </b></li>
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<li><b>Acknowledge the problem - </b>Recent data indicates that most white evangelicals don't want to talk about racism. <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/01/the-problem-with-ignoring-problems.html">As I've written before</a>, problems cannot be solved by ignoring them. This is certainly the case with racism. All Christians must accept that it exists, and that it's a problem. Our churches need to clearly acknowledge and speak against racism from the pulpit. Furthermore, sermons should be regularly preached about Biblical justice. Nothing can be accomplished until we stand in agreement that racism still exists, and that it's a problem worth confronting. </li>
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We know that God loves justice. We also know that the road toward racial reconciliation will be hard. May God grant us the courage to lead the journey. <br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15554902239046333884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448411714504460028.post-41920717312677948752014-08-21T07:28:00.002-05:002015-03-02T12:22:05.272-06:00Two Words that Prove Racism Exists in the ChurchIt blows my mind that people don't see it.<br />
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After <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2014/08/21/us/ferguson-missouri-protests.html?_r=0">almost 2 weeks of protests</a> in Ferguson, African Americans across the country continue to shake their heads in frustration. Another unarmed black teenager was killed. The media is focused on the bad behavior of a few protesters, the details of the shooting, and the character of the victim. But as Christian blogger Jelani Greenidge <a href="https://medium.com/@jelanigreenidge/this-is-what-we-mean-when-we-say-its-about-race-5da3cd49c24d">eloquently stated</a>, the outcry from African Americans isn't really about Ferguson. It's about racism. <br />
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And yet many white Christians still don't see it.<br />
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We blame the victims. We dismiss the frustrations of African Americans as hyper-sensitive overreactions. We assume that the passage of the<a href="http://www.history.com/topics/black-history/civil-rights-act"> Civil Rights Act of 1964</a> effectively erased racism from our culture. As I've <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2013/04/is-it-safe-there.html">written before</a>, racism isn't gone. It's alive and well. It just looks different today.<br />
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Why can't white followers of Jesus see the injustice of racism deep within the fabric of our society? Where's the righteous anger? Why do we ignore its ugly presence in our churches? Perhaps situations like we're seeing in St. Louis are too dramatic for some to believe. <br />
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Fine. Then let me prove the existence of racism among Christians with one ugly, two-word phrase.<br />
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I'm proud to work for radio station that's boldly moving forward with diversifying our music. We desperately want to reach across cultures and generations with the Gospel, and music is a means to accomplish that goal. Even though <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2013/10/segregation-in-christian-music.html">most Christian stations never play Gospel music</a>, we're blazing a new trail. Since a large percentage of the community we serve is African American, why not play Gospel music? So we've lightly sprinkled Fred Hammond, Donald Lawrence and Hezekiah Walker among Chris Tomlin, MercyMe and Casting Crowns. <br />
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We've received some great feedback for this subtle shift. However, not everyone is happy about it. Shocking conversations with some of our white listeners reveals the truth about racism in the church. I keep hearing the same disgusting two-word phrase:<br />
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<b>"Jungle Music"</b><br />
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Musical preferences are a reality for everyone. But the use of this particular phrase for Gospel music sails past any lines of appropriate language. And it's not a phrase that can be taken multiple ways. Without a doubt, it's a hateful and disgustingly racist thing to say.<br />
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<i>I wish you'd stop playing all of that jungle music!</i></blockquote>
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<i>Why are you playing so much jungle music?</i></blockquote>
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Yes, real Christian people in 2014 are saying this. Out loud. To our staff. And I'd ignore it if the incidents were isolated. We've heard this specific phrase multiple times.<br />
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So maybe you want to ignore the deaths of Trayvon Martin and Michael Brown. Perhaps you'll dismiss the painful stories of racism from African Americans in your own community. But now you've got me. I'm a 35 year old white guy. And I'm telling you that white Christians are calling Gospel music "Jungle Music" to staff at a Christian radio station.<br />
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What else will it take for white Christians to feel righteous anger about the existence of racism in our culture? Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15554902239046333884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448411714504460028.post-70975809637453355512014-08-16T08:20:00.001-05:002014-08-16T08:20:27.247-05:00The Secret to Sanity for Young FamiliesWe're all pretty good at faking it. <br />
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If you know us from casual conversations and Facebook posts, it seems as if we've got it all together. Our kids are smiling in matching outfits. The latest family outing was a smashing success. Our yards are perfectly manicured, and our homes are spotless. Books could be written about our marriages. We all basically look like 1950's sitcom families.<br />
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But this is nothing more than a fragile caricature of the challenging and humorous reality facing young families today.<br />
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What's really going on? Our toddler just ate dirt, and picked-up dog poop with his bare hands. It takes all of our energy just to keep the kids from fighting constantly. The house is a complete disaster, and the bathroom hasn't been cleaned in weeks. The kids behaving themselves in public feels as miraculous as Moses parting the Red Sea. We can't remember the last time we went on an actual date. It feels like all we do is wipe butts and try not to drive each other crazy.<br />
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You get the picture. <br />
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Gratefully, my wife and I have discovered a secret. Without this one simple thing, we'd quickly slip into despair and insanity. In fact, it's made such a difference for our family that we've become evangelists for the cause. Convincing someone to give it a try feels like we've won the lottery. What is it?<br />
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<b>Community.</b><br />
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But not just any type of community. Through my wife's experiences, we've found immeasurable peace knowing that our struggles as a young family are perfectly normal. She's found meaningful connections with other women in the exact same life place. We've gleaned ingenious parenting strategies, and have been inspired by the small victories in other marriages. We've found deep friendships in the midst of a lonely phase in life. <b> </b><br />
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For us, the rescuing peace of true community came through an organization with chapters all over the country. It's called <a href="http://www.mops.org/">M.O.P.S. (Mothers of Pre-Schoolers)</a>. My wife's diverse group of moms from across the South Side of Chicago has been our lifeline (Check out <a href="http://www.beverlycovenantchurch.org/mops.html">M.O.P.S. of Beverly</a>). These educated, intelligent and inspiring women support each other in ways that make life with little ones manageable. Even though husbands aren't allowed to attend, we've all greatly benefited from the experiences of our wives. <br />
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Surviving everyday life with small children is too difficult to endure alone. If you're doing so, stop it. If you know a young family, convince them to get the support they need. Even though we all love our kids, the support of a community that understands our unique struggles is the best way to find peace. And stay relatively sane. Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15554902239046333884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448411714504460028.post-14886413661579957782014-08-03T15:08:00.000-05:002014-08-03T15:08:12.323-05:00Parenting Advice from an Average Dad<div style="text-align: right;">
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If you're looking for an "expert", you've come to the wrong place.<br />
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Many well intentioned people make the false assumption that having five children makes me a parenting expert. If anything, having a bunch of little ones only serves to accentuate a brutal reality: <i><b>I have no idea what I'm doing</b></i>.<br />
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But who cares! Admitting my lack of control over the future is actually pretty freeing. It makes focusing on the complicated demands of today a little easier.<br />
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So when it comes to being a dad, I'm somewhere in the "average" category. And that's not false humility. I've seen plenty of guys doing it better. Their triumphs and my fumbles have resulted in these lighthearted, yet practical tips for parents:<br />
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<li><b>Eat pie</b>. But not just any pie. A big, fat, juicy slice of humble pie. And smear it all over your face in front of everyone. Parenting humblebrags aren't helpful, and are just masking significant struggles. Want to look like an awesome parent? Remember that <a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=James+3%3A13-16&version=NLT">true wisdom starts with genuine humility</a>.</li>
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<li><b>Be a follower</b>. Mentorship isn't just for kids. Every parent needs a mentor. So get over yourself, and find some relatively normal parents that are further along the journey than you. Tell them about your struggles and failures. If anything, you'll figure out quickly that you're not alone. And you might even get some helpful ideas.</li>
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<li><b>Accept failure in advance</b>. You're gonna fail. Way more often than you'd like. Make it a point to expect mistakes, and own them when they happen. That will make it a little easier to recognize the wins, and take the occasional victory lap.</li>
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<li><b>Put your kids third</b>. Your marriage is way more important than your kids. I think I'd collapse and die if I had to do this alone. My admiration for single parents is indescribable...but I don't want to be one. So put your spouse before your kids. Then <a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+22%3A36-37&version=NLT">put Jesus in front of them all</a>. Why? Following Him will give you invaluable parenting advice. And <a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=John+3%3A16&version=NLT">eternal salvation</a> is an obvious bonus.</li>
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<li><b>Ignore all of the "experts"</b>. They have interesting ideas, and they've made lots of money on them. Some of their advice can be adapted, but most of it is completely worthless. Why? Because each kid is completely different, and each family is unique. No expert knows how your culture, genetics, finances, circumstances and faith intersect to create the environment where your kid exists. So instead of listening to experts, try listening to your kid. Give them what they need. Not what someone who doesn't know them says they need.</li>
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<li><b>Let go of your ideals. </b>It's good to be a dreamer. But sometimes hanging onto your ideals can do more harm than good. That amazing parenting theory you idolize might not work at all for your kid. And selfishly sticking to it will damage your family. We had visions of rocking and snuggling all of our babies to sleep. But one of them hated it. He'd actually scream until you put him down. I know - super weird. But we learned something from it. Don't give your children what <i><b>you</b></i> want. Give them what they need. </li>
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<li><b>Assume everyone else is a better parent than you</b>. Why? Because arrogant and overconfident parents are super annoying. Their condescending looks and theoretical assertions about how they're planning to raise their kids five years from now makes the rest of us throw-up in our mouths. So start by looking for ways other parents are better than you, instead of scoffing at their decisions.</li>
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<li><b>Believe that your ideas won't work.</b> Don't get me wrong, your ideas will likely work really well. For <i><b>you</b></i>. But that doesn't make your ideas directly applicable to any other families. In fact, your specific parenting strategies are shockingly awful when applied to others. So get rid of any superiority complex before it starts. Encourage others to take the spirit of what you're doing, and make it better. And assume that they will. </li>
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You're not going to win any parenting awards following my advice. If that's what you're aiming for, there's plenty of parenting books out there with depressingly unachievable suggestions. But you're welcome to join me in the "average" club. We take it one day at a time, do our best and pray a lot. And when it's all over, we're aiming for more wins than losses. <br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15554902239046333884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448411714504460028.post-24317432535213193872014-07-13T18:54:00.001-05:002015-03-02T12:22:44.087-06:00A New Role on a New ShowChristian radio needs a facelift.<br />
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For far too many years, Christian radio has been filled with terrible book interviews and meaningless banter. Gratefully, I have the opportunity to be part of the change that is so desperately needed.<br />
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Tomorrow morning, Moody Radio Chicago will launch an innovative <a href="http://www.moodyradiochicago.fm/karl-and-june/">new morning show</a> featuring <a href="http://www.karlclauson.com/">Karl Clauson</a> and <a href="http://www.junifelix.com/">June Felix</a>. These two talented and passionate followers of Jesus will join listeners in an ongoing conversation about life and faith. The priority will be honest discussion resulting in transformed lives. Interviews will only happen when it enhances what they're already doing. For more information, check out the press release <a href="http://www.moodyglobal.org/moody-radio-chicago-new-morning-show-karl-clausen-june-felix/#sthash.iPJxxcfL.dpbs">here</a>. You can also connect with the show on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/KarlandJune">Facebook</a> and <a href="http://www.twitter.com/karlandjune">Twitter</a>. <br />
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I have the privilege of serving as the show's Executive Producer.<br />
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Please keep us in your prayers, check out the <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7--pT4__cMg">introductory video</a> below, and <a href="http://www.moodyradiochicago.fm/">listen live</a> every weekday from 5-9AM! <br />
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You think my large family is a little weird.</div>
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Don't worry, I understand. And I'm not mad at you. Technically speaking, the average American household is only <a href="http://quickfacts.census.gov/qfd/states/00000.html">2.61 people</a>. When it comes to childbearing, <a href="http://www.gallup.com/poll/27973/americans-25-children-ideal-family-size.aspx">52% of Americans</a> think it's ideal to have two kids. So my family of five children would certainly be considered above average. </div>
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But once we had our third kid, it got weird...for other people. And many suddenly felt compelled to say really awkward things. Out loud. Right in front of us.<br />
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So, I've put together a list of questions <i><b>not </b></i>to ask people with large families. Take note, and enjoy:<br />
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<li><b>"Don't you know how that happens?!"</b> I'm not really sure what possesses people to actually ask this question. Most probably think it's funny. But any normal thinking person knows it's just plain awkward. Are you really asking me about my sex life? I hope not. But if you decide to ask this question anyway, I'll be sure to make <i><b>you </b></i>uncomfortable with my favorite response: "Yes! In fact, she can't keep her hands off me!"</li>
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<li><b>"Are you trying to be like the Duggars?"</b>. I'm not
going to make fun of <a href="http://www.duggarfamily.com/">Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar</a>. I've met them. They're
really nice people that love Jesus. But let's check our math here. I
have 5 kids. They have 19. Apparently that's pretty much the same thing.</li>
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<li><b>"How in the world can you afford to have so many kids?"</b> This is an inherently
flawed question. You're assuming that we live our lives like you do. We don't. Our lives are actually very different from yours, and that's okay with us. You see, we don't eat at restaurants as a family. Ever. We make cheap home-cooked meals. We also don't go on fancy vacations (unless someone
else pays for it). Our lives are simple, and yet exceedingly happy. We
honestly don't understand how <i><b>you</b></i> can afford to eat out so often, buy new cars and go on so many vacations. But <i><b>we</b></i> wouldn't ask you to explain. </li>
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<li><b>"Are they all yours?"</b> No. We kidnapped two of them. But seriously, my wife was shocked to get this question frequently as she ran errands with our first three kids. Is she a nanny? Is she
babysitting? No - those are our kids. All of them. </li>
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<li><b>"Is that your kid over there? He's about to fall off the slide!"</b> Our kids love the playground, but we rarely enjoy the experience. Why? Hovering parents stare at us in disgust while we sit on a bench. They glare as they follow their kids onto ever piece of equipment. You may think we're neglecting our children, but we're not. While you're playing man-to-man defense, we're playing zone. Why? Because they outnumber us. Different strategy, same game. We just need a wider view if we're going to win.</li>
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<li><b>"Are you Catholic?" </b>No, I'm not. But do you even know what you're asking? You see, this question is rooted in the Roman Catholic position that all forms of <a href="http://www.catholic.com/tracts/birth-control">birth control are sinful</a>. So you're basically asking me if my wife and I use birth control. Most well adjusted people would consider that topic off limits for casual conversation. Let's keep it that way.</li>
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<li><b>"Do you run a day care?" </b>I know you're just trying to make conversation. But what are the odds that I run a day care full of kids that look so much alike? And so strikingly similar to me? Either I'm a racist day care provider that only accepts white kids that look alike, or they're mine. </li>
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<li>"<b>This is the last one, <i>right</i>?"</b> Through your leading question, you've made it blatantly clear that you think this <i><b>should</b></i> be my last child. How nice of you to insert yourself into my family's decision making! Perhaps you're worried about overpopulation. Or kids just make you nervous. <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2013/12/in-praise-of-large-and-small-families.html">As I've written before</a>, we'll be consulting God about that decision, not you. But thanks anyway. </li>
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<li><b>"Wow. <i>Another</i> kid? Life must be really complicated for you."</b> No, it's not. This is a common misconception. We're actually quite satisfied with our existence. Our kids don't need playdates, because they have each other. We also have enough people in our house to play virtually any game imaginable. And my oldest loves to help with the baby. Bottom line - I love all of my kids. They make life infinitely more enjoyable. In many ways, it's actually <b><i>easier</i></b> to have a large family.</li>
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It may be hard to believe, but we're not crazy. We actually meant to have five kids. And I can't think of one that I'd want to give back. How about you?</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15554902239046333884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448411714504460028.post-9916387884718641322014-03-10T10:46:00.001-05:002014-04-04T19:26:35.572-05:00Baby Boy!<div>
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My wife Sara and I are thrilled to announce the birth of our fifth child, <b>Theodore Gregory Dahlen</b>! He was born on Sunday, March 9th at 7:13AM, weighing in at 9 pounds, 6 ounces and 23 inches long. By God's grace, both mom and baby are healthy and happy. And I <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/02/the-struggle-no-father-dares-to-discuss.html">didn't faint</a>.<br />
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Names are very important to us. We have strategically named all of our children in such a way that exemplifies God's hand in our family story. We fully acknowledge that we are nothing without Jesus, and wouldn't be where we are today without His divine guidance, peace, grace and mercy. May God do a mighty work through our children, and bless us with a legacy of Christian faith.<br />
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A little over four years ago, Sara and I <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/02/an-impossible-choice.html">endured a tragedy</a> that almost ended her life. Not knowing whether we'd be able to have any more children, we see our son's life as truly miraculous. In honor of this precious gift, we name him <b>Theodore</b>, <a href="http://www.behindthename.com/name/theodore">meaning "gift of God"</a>. It's also no coincidence that my <a href="http://www.briandahlen.com/2014/01/a-recipe-for-modern-heroism.html">faith hero is named Rev. Theodore Asare</a>. In fact, the two of them even share the same birthday! We pray that our son would embrace his miraculous existence, and that God would give him a bold vision to impact the world for Christ, just like Rev. Asare.<br />
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Our lives have also been immeasurably touched by Sara's Uncle Gordon and Aunt Sarah Gregory. They possess contagious faith in Christ. They exemplify unconditional love. They model the importance of service to others. Their generosity and humility are overwhelming. Their loyalty is unwavering. So, we give our son the middle name <b>Gregory</b> in their honor. We pray that God would give our son an extra measure of their faith, love, generosity, humility, loyalty and heart for service.<br />
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Please join us in praising God for our son <b>Theodore Gregory</b>! Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15554902239046333884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448411714504460028.post-91590664799799669722014-02-26T16:53:00.003-06:002014-04-04T19:26:57.851-05:00The Struggle No Father Dares to Discuss<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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I almost fainted while my wife was giving birth to three of our kids.<br />
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Go ahead. You can laugh. <br />
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I thought I had a pretty good excuse the first time. The anesthesiologist instructed me to stand facing my wife while she sat at the edge of the bed. This was apparently his favorite technique for administering an epidural. I think he was setting me up. Either way, as my wife leaned forward and squeezed my waist, my knees locked up against the bed. I suddenly found myself staring directly at an enormous needle sliding into her spine. Before I knew what was happening, the edges started closing in, and I heard someone say "Dad is going down!" In my defense, I never completely fainted. But it was close.<br />
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You can't blame me for that one. But when I almost fainted during two more births for no apparent reason, I found myself without a good excuse. Clearly, there was no legitimate physiological reason for passing out. And I've never fainted before or since. So what's really going on here?<br />
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I believe there's a deeper psychological issue involved that all fathers go through. But none of us dare to discuss it.<br />
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Before we get there, a caveat is necessary. I fully acknowledge that no man will ever understand the physical and emotional pain women endure during pregnancy and childbirth. Many of us are lovingly reminded of this fact frequently. And we collectively agree that we'll never get it. However, one of the consequences of this truth is that men are fearful of discussing the difficulties <i><b>we</b></i> endure as our wives struggle through pregnancy and childbirth. Clearly, our issues will never be equal in value or intensity. But they exist nonetheless.</div>
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So what's our biggest struggle? <b>Powerlessness. </b></div>
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The average Christian husband wants nothing more than to make his wife happy. We'd bend over backwards to comfort her, solve her problems, and give her what she wants. We'd basically do anything to make her life as pleasant as possible. That's why pregnancy and childbirth are so hard for <i><b>us</b></i>. </div>
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My wife and I are only a few days away from the birth of our fifth kid. That means her back is killing her. She can't bend over. Sleep is elusive. Her internal organs are being punched. <b>And there's nothing I can do about it</b>. Sure, I can buy her ice cream. I can let her rest while I do chores around the house. But those things don't remove any of her discomfort. I'm completely powerless to make her feel any better.<br />
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Then there's the delivery room. She's in excruciating pain for hours, and all I can do is stand there and look like an idiot. Holding her hand doesn't stop the intense anguish. Any lame attempt at encouragement or "coaching" is annoying at best. I'm basically unable to do anything of any substance or value. For any normal guy, being powerless to help the woman you love is absolutely unbearable.<br />
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Your husband may not hang on the edge of consciousness like I did, but there's no doubt that he's having a hard time dealing with your pain. He's frustrated, angry and overwhelmed. He isn't experiencing anything even remotely as difficult as you. But he's a wreck watching you suffer. He'd do anything to help you, but he can't. So he's standing quietly on the sidelines admiring you for your courage, strength and endurance. His love for you is growing exponentially by the second.<br />
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In the end, I believe God uses pregnancy and childbirth to remind men that we <i><b>are </b></i>powerless. And that's a good thing. The more we embrace our inability to control the direction of our families, the more we'll surrender our lives to God and let <i><b>Him</b></i> lead. </div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15554902239046333884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448411714504460028.post-32166177397901080162014-02-06T07:32:00.000-06:002015-02-27T13:25:33.038-06:00An Impossible ChoiceFaith isn't a position paper, or a series of boxes to check on a form. How could a relationship with the Creator of the universe be reduced to such simplistic terms?<br />
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I learned this truth the hard way.<br />
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We knew almost immediately that something was wrong. The blood test confirmed our fourth pregnancy, but there were abnormalities. My wife's hormone levels weren't increasing at the expected rates, and she had an overwhelming sense that something wasn't right. Unexpected pains and a mother's intuition trumped the cautious patience of doctors.<br />
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Over the next seven weeks, testing consistently revealed abnormal hormone levels. So we did what everyone else does in situations like this - we turned to Google. It was quickly evident that her symptoms were consistent with an <a href="http://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/pregnancy-ectopic-pregnancy">ectopic pregnancy</a>. This is an extremely dangerous condition that is fatal for the baby, and potentially fatal for the mother. The emotional anguish and stress of such a suspicion kept us from discussing it. We simply cried, prayed and waited. <br />
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Were it not for a series of miracles, my wife would have died in front of my three small children while I was at work.<br />
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On the day she would have passed, we had a scheduled ultrasound. Alone in the exam room, a technician was more thorough than necessary. She calmly and quickly admitted my wife to the hospital. I rushed home from work. Nobody would tell us what was wrong. But we knew. Within a few hours, <b>I was presented with an impossible choice: end the life of my baby, or let both my wife and my baby die. </b><br />
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With all the advances in modern medicine, there's tragically no cure for an ectopic pregnancy. No technique exists to transplant the baby from a fallopian tube to the uterus. Without intervention, the fallopian tube would rupture, and my wife would bleed to death. But her symptoms were abnormal. The pain should have been unbearable, but it wasn't. The doctors and nurses urged me to abort the baby. I couldn't do it. I demanded that we wait, and do additional testing.<br />
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Meanwhile, my wife became increasingly pale and weak. Nurses suspected low blood sugar and stress. I watched in horror as my wife quickly deteriorated. She passed out in our hospital room. Three times. Then the trauma team arrived. An ER doctor quieted the room, and ordered that my wife be taken to the operating room "Right now!" Forms were pressed in front of us to sign as my wife teetered on the edge of consciousness. I kissed her, told her I loved her, fought back tears, and said goodbye. I prayed it wasn't the last time.<br />
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The waiting room was empty. I have no idea how much time passed as I sat with a friend and frantically called family. By God's grace and divine intervention, she made it. But barely. Without any of us realizing it, the ectopic pregnancy ruptured. The mysterious absence of pain caused everyone to miss it. The surgeon said she lost two liters of blood internally, and one of her fallopian tubes was completely destroyed.<br />
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I unsuccessfully attempted to hold it together. My wife was alive, but my baby was dead. The blood loss and general anesthesia virtually erased my wife's memory of the hours leading up to the surgery. She didn't know we lost our child. I had to tell her.<br />
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I felt utterly alone and overwhelmed by grief. It took almost a week for us to muster enough emotional strength to even discuss what happened in any detail. It took even longer to grapple with the physical, emotional and spiritual scars. Did my lack of action endanger my wife's life? What would the "right" decision have been in God's eyes?<br />
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I soon discovered there were others like us. In hushed tones, Christian friends privately shared their own ectopic stories. Most had to end the life of their baby in order to save the mother. And they never discussed it publicly for fear of judgment and chastisement from those with an overly simplistic approach to the intersection of life and faith.<br />
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So we all sit quietly in the shadows of the faith community, struggling to come to terms with the moral complexities and tragic losses.<br />
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Life viewed through a Christian lens certainly contains black and white truths. I stand firmly behind them. But experiences like this remind me that much of life as a follower of Jesus is lived in the gray. And I'm learning not to fear the gray. Instead, I'm endeavoring to trust that the omnipotence and omniscience of God is far beyond my intellectual reach. In so doing, it becomes easier to surrender each step of my life to His divine guidance, and offer compassion to those struggling to discern His unknowable path. Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15554902239046333884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4448411714504460028.post-62009207602029495812014-01-27T06:50:00.001-06:002015-03-02T12:28:56.677-06:00A Recipe for Modern HeroismAt some point, every kid has to write an essay about their "hero". I never really liked that assignment.<br />
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It's not that I don't believe in the idea of heroes. It's more that I haven't really encountered anyone that's deserving of the title. Of course, there are a few people I greatly respect. There's others I find highly influential. But the status of "hero" isn't something I take lightly. In fact, I've never called anyone my "hero". Until now.<br />
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Without a doubt, <a href="http://www.theovision.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=46&Itemid=60">Rev. Theodore Asare</a> is truly heroic. His <a href="http://www.theovision.org/">unique ministry</a> work has impacted countless lives in Ghana, and his legacy continues to spread across West Africa. God is working more powerfully through Rev. Asare than anyone I've ever encountered. But most importantly, I think Rev. Asare serves as a great model for Christian heroism today. Through his example, a simple yet profound recipe of sorts can be gleaned.<br />
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Modern heroes:<br />
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<li><b>Receive a larger than life calling from God, and dare to accept it</b>. True heroes don't make their own path. They take the impassible road that only God can clear. Theodore Asare dared to take the heroic journey. What was it? He brought God's Word to those who can't read it. You see, Bible translators have been working in sub-Saharan Africa for decades. And yet, finished Bibles collect dust on village shelves. Why? Because many Sub-Saharan African cultures value oral tradition. Verbal storytelling trumps the written word. Therefore illiteracy is extremely high. <a href="http://www.africanlibraryproject.org/our-african-libraries/africa-facts">More than 1 in 3 </a>sub-Saharan African adults can't read. It's not that they're somehow deficient - many simply aren't interested. Those who can read still <a href="http://www.theovision.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=72&Itemid=34">prefer oral communication</a>. To make matters more complicated, there are over <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Languages_of_Ghana">70 different languages</a> in Ghana alone. West Africa has <a href="https://www.ldc.upenn.edu/sites/www.ldc.upenn.edu/files/west-african-languages.pdf">over 500 languages</a>. That's why God chose Rev. Asare to bridge the gap. God gave him a specific vision to create audio recordings of the Bible in indigenous African languages. How could one man accomplish such a monumental task? God made a way. 25 years later, <a href="http://www.theovision.org/">Theovision International</a> has <a href="http://www.theovision.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=46&Itemid=60">recorded audio Bibles</a> in <i><b>over 288 African languages in more than 35 African countries</b></i>. This is truly heroic, and eternally valuable. <b> </b></li>
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<li><b><b>Spread the Gospel, AND makes disciples</b> - </b>It's common to hear
about evangelists who share the Gospel, and then promptly leave. That's not what
happens with Rev. Asare's ministry. He doesn't just create audio Bibles
and leave. He selects a leader from within the community, trains them, supports them financially and gives them a motorcycle. Soon, these individuals host weekly<a href="http://www.theovision.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=73&Itemid=55"> Bible listening clubs</a> in a cluster of separate villages. Discussions and friendships develop.
Lives are transformed. Disciples are made - not just converts. </li>
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<li><b>Possess a healthy dose of ethnic pride - </b>America
is great. But so is Ghana. For too many years, Americans have falsely
assumed that our cultural norms and experiences translate well into
other countries. The opposite is often true. Therefore we must treat other cultures with deference. Rev. Asare loves and respects his American ministry
partners, but his heart is in Africa. He believes Africans are best
equipped to reach Africans, and that they can surpass Americans in their
skills and expertise. He's absolutely correct. And his value for
Ghanaian culture
enables him to be self-sustaining locally through innovative and
creative fundraising techniques. More importantly, he meets the needs of people in the midst of their own beautifully unique cultural context. One man in a remote village thought Christianity was a "white man's" religion, until he
heard an audio Bible recorded in his native tongue. He was instantly converted,
declaring "God speaks my language!"</li>
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<li><b><b>Creatively engage the culture, rather than reject it. </b></b>Many
Christians reject cultural trends and innovations. Rev. Asare embraces
them. Through collaboration with a local mobile phone company, he
provides a <a href="http://www.theovision.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=57&Itemid=57">free daily Bible verse</a> in 12 different languages. And
it's completely free for users. In addition, there are many remote villages in harsh climates with no access to electricity. Through business partnerships and innovative experimentation, Rev. Asare and his team send out God's Word across West Africa in the form of <a href="http://www.theovision.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=358&Itemid=118">solar powered MP3 players</a>, <a href="http://www.theovision.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=358&Itemid=118">portable amplification systems</a> and other unique devices. </li>
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<li><b>Care for the soul AND the well being of others</b> - Caring for the soul without caring about the physical and emotional health of others is an incomplete work. While Rev. Asare's passion is to bring salvation to Africans through audio Bibles, he doesn't stop there. Through partnerships with <a href="https://reachbeyond.org/">HCJB</a> and local doctors, Theovision International <a href="http://www.theovision.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=59&Itemid=54">provides healthcare </a>for the needy and <a href="http://www.theovision.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=59&Itemid=54">builds wells</a>
for those without clean drinking water. Their audio Bibles can be heard
in hospitals, schools and prisons. They've
started three radio stations, and their programming includes agricultural training. And miraculously, their listening clubs and audio Bibles are increasing literacy rates across West Africa. As it turns out, hearing God's Word makes people want to learn how to read it. </li>
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<li><b>Invests in future leaders - </b>Truly heroic achievements transcend time. The best way for individuals to achieve this is through mentorship. While sharing dinner with a pastor in Ghana last summer, I discovered that Rev. Asare already quietly invests in others. With great passion, this pastor described a deep mentorship relationship he and a group of other pastors experience with Rev. Asare. I'm not sure how he makes time for it, but Rev. Asare meets with them regularly. He prays with them. He surprises them on Sunday mornings to evaluate their preaching. He selflessly pours into their lives, and into the lives of his own Theovision International staff.</li>
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<li><b>Exude genuine humility</b> - Humility cannot be faked. False humility is easy to detect, and quickly degenerates into arrogance. That's why genuine humility is so incredibly rare. Tragically, many influential faith leaders today lose sight of the source of their success and become prideful. In spite of his many accomplishments, Rev. Asare exudes an indescribably genuine and contagious humility. The kind that makes him easy to follow. If you met him, you would sense a quiet confidence. You'd hear slow and measured speech. You'd encounter a warm and inviting smile. Above all, you would see Jesus. </li>
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The annals of church history tell powerful stories of Augustine, Luther, Whitfield and Moody. Sooner or later, names from our generation will be added to this list. I nominate Rev. Theodore Asare. Lord willing, his example will enable us to identify others followers of Jesus today who are truly heroic.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15554902239046333884noreply@blogger.com0